7 Survival Pointers for the New Mother
By a Mother-Survivor
Humbling as it may be, most mothers can take it and swallow their pride for their children’s stake. But young, inexperienced mothers don’t have to start from scratch. They can get some initial boost and assistance from motherhood and parenting websites; and of course, from their own mothers, elder sisters and even friends who have survived the challenges of motherhood.
Motherhood is a daunting task with so much responsibility. But it is also the ultimate expression of femininity and that’s what makes it well worth all the hassles and troubles. It’s unfortunate when the selfless efforts of mothers go unrecognized.
The following are some tips for mothers challenged by their multifaceted role:
- Be sure to have a strong mentality
Being a mother will require you to use up all of the strengths that you currently have. You will quickly realize how much energy it takes to raise children and will need to fin extra strength inside that you never knew you had. Although your body might currently be used to sleeping for eight hours, it will undergo a painful cut down to about three to five hours every night.
- Try not to be such a control freak
Oftentimes new mothers will be very possessive and controlling. Being a mother will require that you let go and let things happen as they will. You cannot always control and plan everything that is going to happen. Although you cannot control every situation it is in your best interest to be prepared for whatever situation may arise.
- Practice to be upbeat and have a sense of humor
There will be times when you don’t know why being a mother is so difficult and why you can’t seem to get anything right. In order to get you through these times you will need to learn how to manage your stress and laugh it off. In being able to do so you will realize that these tough times will pass before you know it.
- Don’t play favorites
This advice comes in handy when you have more than one child and they’ve grown older already. One of the most difficult of all parenting challenges would be dealing with sibling rivalries. It is very common for most children, young and old, to nag and fight with each other as other siblings.
- Provide a good role model for your children to look up to
If your children are females, then you should be the role model. If you’re a single mom and you have a son, make sure his dad fills up that role well. If in the case of absent or delinquent dads, you can take the help of a male person whom you trust, like your son’s uncle, your friend or a cousin.
- Give them some slack
A goal of all mothers is to raise their children to become confident individuals later on. So give them the space they require. Allow them to commit mistakes from time to time, and make them learn from these mistakes.
- Devote time to show your affection to your children
Motherhood4Realsays: “By showing your children how much you care and love them really helps them to realize how much you love them, and in turn will actually listen and cooperate better.”