Being a Woman: A Message to Men and all the People who belittle us
Because we do have it hard
By Lyka Mae P. Chiang
You probably often hear the words “women have it hard,” but have you really thought about it? Does it ever occur to you that maybe, there are a lot more to a woman’s story than doing household chores, having monthly period cramps, and carrying a life in her womb for 9 months? Most of the time, we have it hard, not because of these things, but because we are seen and treated inappropriately.
Women are not material
Look at a woman; look at her as a human. We are human, not a lustful thing that you can use to satisfy your needs. Just because we wear clothes that are revealing our skin doesn’t mean we are asking for it, that you have the permission to do any form of catcalling. If men can go out topless, then why can’t women wear bikinis or even a top that’s showing our cleavage without getting looks from judgmental eyes? Our body is ours, and only we have the right to do whatever we want to it—just as you do with yours.
Women don’t need permission
You don’t need to allow us to go out on a Friday night and get some vodka with our girl friends. You don’t need to allow us to wear our mini dresses and skirts, or flaunt our asses in our high-waist shorts. You don’t need to allow us to put on a red lipstick and colors to our faces just because we want to enhance our beauty. You don’t need to allow us to do any sort of thing, because we will do it even if you don’t want us to, even without hearing you say yes. You ask, why? Simply because we want to, and doing it makes us feel better about ourselves. It’s what we are comfortable with, and you should learn to accept that.
Women can be independent
We don’t need your permission because we can take care of ourselves. We are not in the old age where men are always superior to women. Today, we live in a world where women can be independent, too. We can get a job, be successful in our careers, and hey, even enjoy life without the company of a man. But, of course, this doesn’t mean that we hate men or we want to kick you out of our lives completely. The thing is, we are stronger now, and we can stand alone if we want to.
This is a message not only to men but also to women who think small of other women just because of their differences in lifestyle choices. We don’t need to drag others down. Simply, what we need is to see and treat each other equally, regardless of gender and life decisions. ZH